The easy answer to this question is… Find someone you like! Someone you relate to, that you’re comfortable with, that has experience and knowledge, that can lead you through the seemingly daunting task of putting together your wedding ceremony.
How do you do this? Interview some celebrants, speak to your friends, get recommendations, go to bridal expos and speak to as many of the celebrants as you can.
Find someone who will take the time and the effort to get to know you, your likes and dislikes, even your quirks and idiosyncrasies. After all, we don’t live in a cookie-cutter world, no two couples are the same, so no two ceremonies should be the same.
I’ve heard from so many couples over the years of weddings they’ve been to where they didn’t like the ceremony for various reasons. The main reasons being – the celebrant couldn’t be heard, the celebrant made it all about themselves, the celebrant was too formal, and my pet peeve, the celebrant spent a huge amount of time lecturing everyone on the meaning of love, marriage and the pitfalls that might lie ahead for the couple.
My Biggest Tip…. Don’t assume that your ceremony has to be dead-serious!!! Please please please have fun with your ceremony, it is a HUGE part of your day, I would argue the most important part of your day, and shouldn’t be something that has to be “endured” so that you can get to the party of the reception. Bring the fun, excitement and joy into your ceremony too! This is where choosing the right celebrant who really “gets you” is vital.
Toni Elsley – Celebrant
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